Is That My Left or Yours?

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I had a little epiphany today, as I was driving. I had to go about a 35 mile distance about 6:30AM. I took routes south, west, and then southwest. As I reached the end of my journey it occurred to me that the sun was facing all different directions because I was driving in different directions. Now don’t get me wrong I knew this before, but today I realized how easily recognizable it is and how explorers would have used these signs. Ok I know you may still be thinking, “What a dope.” That is precisely the point of my blog today. Not my being a dope, but on the subject of personal perspective.

The fact that human beings can be so similar and yet so different, like snowflakes, they seem to be endless in possible combinations, yet identical in makeup.

Now you might think that if I, at my advanced age hadn’t fully considered the placement of the sun to the direction of my travels, I might not be much of a thinker, but you’d be wrong. I have been called cerebral, daydreamer, romantic, among other adjectives, and they are pretty accurate. I probably spend more time thinking than I do in action, but I don’t perceive the practical universe around me as most seem to. In other words I have no common sense.

The importance of all this revelatory blather regarding you, my reader? In our relationships we think we know what is acceptable for our relationships, but only according to the voices in our heads. Sentiments, like “They should have known better”, “They knew I didn’t want…” or “Couldn’t he see I was trying to….” are subjections that are usually unreasonable. I am not trying to excuse thoughtless behavior, but the #1 reason people don’t get along is because of misconceptions due to their personal perceptions. Their personal life plan/rule book is the ethical code & values they have been nurture with, experienced and come to regard as ‘truth’.

It’s easy to feel wounded when your life plan/rule book has been violated, but unless you’re Dr Phil, no one has read yours, and only the most fanatic people pleasers will ask you to publish one.

I am ambidextrous, but I am not disturbed because most of you aren’t. I have friends with radically different political (Left and Right) opinions and I can accept most easily. I have found the more tolerant (not to be confused with accepting) I am of others plan books, the better I sleep at night, and the fewer problems I have in my relationships.